You Always Deserve Love
Hello, me again. Here with another saying I cannot stand. (Should I start a series called the least inspirational therapist? I’m open to title ideas). Ok back to the saying: “Nobody will love you til you love yourself.”
You are worthy of love even when you don’t feel like you are. There may be minutes, days, or years when you feel unloveable because of your past, your physical appearance, your thoughts, or your actions. Should we just stop loving each other during these hard moments?? Hell no. Also, how do you know when you’ve gathered enough self love to be worthy of other people’s love?? Is there a checklist? I don’t think so. Who tells you when you’ve completed?? Idk.
People Always Deserve Love, Even When It’s Hard – Miami Therapy
We should love the people around us the hardest when they can’t love themselves. We should try to show them the parts of themselves that we think are amazing. We should walk with them while they learn everything we already know about them. We should help them believe.
Love Isn’t Always Enough – Miami Therapy
Here’s the thing though, you can be loved when you don’t love yourself, but that love will not save you. You cannot use that love to fill the voids inside you completely. You cannot rely on that exterior love to make you whole. It’s just one piece of the puzzle. Sometimes you might not see the love you’re being given either. You might also mistake things for love. When we don’t like ourselves, we often look for evidence from other people to support our world view. We can’t project our internal hate onto others and expect boundless love in return. If we rely on outside people as our ONLY source of love and validation, it gets dangerous.
On the days where you don’t love yourself fully, don’t fear that you will also lose the love of others. You are always a work in progress. But you must do the hard work. You must fight against that internal voice. I know that can be hard to hear; this self love thing, it’s overwhelming. No one can do it for you. But you can totally do it and there are lots of people who really want to help you get there. Including Luna, she loves anyone with food.