What Is A Conscious Relationship?

Are you deliberately creating the relationship that you want?

So many of us are walking through life asleep. We’re repeating the same relationship patterns we learned in childhood, hoping for a different result.

We’re little kids walking around in big adult bodies. We want to love and be loved in return, but it feels like there’s just no one out there for us.

Have you felt like this before?

Through my work as a therapist, I’ve learned that most people are not having conscious relationships at all.

So many of us say we want XYZ in a partner, but end up in the same types of relationships over and over. Often they have none of the qualities we say we value.

I know you’ve been there. Maybe you say that you want a partner who is invested in your future, hardworking, and a dedicated partner. But, you keep ending up in a relationships with people who are flaky, uninterested, and unmotivated. You know what you want but you’re having so much trouble getting there.

Our first impression of a relationship is the relationship we have with our caregivers. Unfortunately, so many of us didn’t have the best role models growing up. Maybe your caregivers or parents fought often. Maybe you watched them confuse love with chaos. Whatever it is that you witnessed, it impacts you in some way. Unconsciously it becomes the blueprint through which you view all of your other relationships – especially the romantic ones. If we want to create a conscious relationship, we have to be aware of what has influenced us and consciously choose what we want to take with us into our adult life and what we want to leave behind.

A conscious relationship is created purposefully and with intention. Here is what it includes:

• You have an awareness of how you like to show love and be loved in return.

• It feels safe, flexible, exciting, and secure.

• Your needs, wants, and desires are supported.

• You have an awareness of your boundaries and your non-negotiable. You’re able to adjust and evaluate these as you go.

• You have clarity and choice around how you want your relationship to feel.

• You are awake. Constantly investing in your relationship and evaluating it. You don’t expect it to just be good, you make it good.

Do you have a conscious relationship?

It’s ok if you said no. I think most people would.

Would you like more help with achieving this? If so, check out the Conscious Relationship Roadmap here. It will walk you through exactly what you’re looking for in a relationship and help you find ways to achieve it. This workbook is perfect for people who are single or partnered and it can even be used for non-romantic relationships.