What A Couples Therapist Learned In Her First Year Of Marriage

My first wedding anniversary is this weekend.

It’s a weird feeling. I study and work with marriages every day. It’s in the name of my graduate degree and my license.

But, I know studying doesn’t make you fully prepared for anything. There’s a big difference between being an “expert” on marriage, and being skilled in your own marriage.

This year I’ve learned a few things that I could not have learned in a textbook:

  • there are moments when you have to work hard in your marriage, but your marriage should not be hard.

  • if you put 99% of your energy and time into something else, your marriage will reflect that decision.

  • the moments when you want to kill each other are usually because you’ve spent to much time apart or haven’t felt heard or seen by each other.

  • friendship and respect will keep you together when everything else goes to shit.

  • the only marriage you will ever be an expert on is your own.

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Whitney Goodman