Should I End My Relationship?
If you realized that your relationship is strained or is becoming “toxic,” you might be wondering…should I leave?
How do I decide if I should stay or go?
I wish I could give you a simple checklist that would provide you the answer. But ending or staying in relationships is a deeply personal decision that only you can make.
I hope this list of questions will help you look deeper into your relationships and make a decision that works for you.
1. have I ever felt unsafe, threatened, or intimidated?
2. do I feel comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings?
3. does this relationship give me energy or drain me?
4. do I play a role in any negative interactions in this relationship?
5. am I expecting this person to meet all of my needs?
6. what am I missing in this relationship?
7. what am I gaining from this relationship?
8. can I remember a time when this relationship felt safe and secure?
9. how do other people who love me view this relationship?
10. do I have doubts about this person?
11. how long have I been feeling this way?
12. have I felt this way about this relationship in the past?
13. what has kept me in this relationship?
14. if nothing changed, would I be happy here?
15. have I tried to set boundaries with this person in the past and how did that go?
16. do I feel respected?
17. do I have independence within this relationship?
18. does this person care about my wellbeing?
19. is this a rough patch or a recurring problem?
20. would leaving fix the problem?