Am I In A Codependent Relationship?

Co-dependency has become a buzz word. You might be wondering…am I codependent?

Humans are wired for connection. We need other people to feel safe, secure, and alive.

Maybe you end up in co-dependent relationships where you are completely enmeshed and unable to think for yourself.

Or maybe you’re fiercely independent and don’t let anyone in.

Both of these types of relationships will leave us feeling lonely, confused, and unfulfilled.

We need to strive for that spot in between – interdependence. 

I want you to imagine that you and your partner are two trees. Beneath the surface you are intertwined. Your roots share the same soil. You need the same things to grow and succeed, but you are your own tree.

It is ok to need, want, and rely on your partner. This is not codependency.

Strong couples want to be influenced. They want to share and depend on each other. But, they recognize that their partner has their own mind and their own personality. They are equal in different ways and capable of recognizing their strengths and contributions to the relationship. They are able to depend on their partner and need them, without losing who they are as a person.

Don’t be afraid to be close to people or to rely on them. It’s what makes you human.

Check out this chart, which side resembles your relationship?

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Miami Therapy and Counseling for Codependency 

If you would like to create more interdependence in your relationship, therapy can help. The CCC has a great team of couples and individual therapists that are ready to help. Please feel free to give us a call or send us an email. We will match you with the right therapist, psychologist, or counselor at our Coral Gables office or online throughout Florida.